Further explanation needed of DAOD 5019

[Thwarten]

Hey everyone!

I've recently completed basic and am on PAT in Borden awaiting courses, and while on basic, I started seriously dating a girl and was wondering if someone could help explain to me in simpler terms DAOD 5019 and/or any other information I need to know about dating a fellow ncm after basic. She was recoursed and will be in Borden in a few weeks, but I wanted to start figuring these things out ahead of time. Any help would be highly appreciated!

 

[Shamrock]

DAOD 5019-1

Personal relationship (relation personnelle)
An emotional, romantic, sexual or family relationship, including marriage or a common-law partnership or civil union, between two CF members, or a CF member and a DND employee or contractor, or member of an allied force.

Personal Conduct

CF members in a personal relationship shall refrain from conduct that may be considered unprofessional in a military context. For example, a CF member while in uniform in public with another person shall not:

hold hands;

kiss, except in greeting and farewell; or

caress or embrace in a romantic manner.

A CF member in a personal relationship with another CF member, DND employee or member of an allied force, contractor or an employee of a contractor shall not be involved, regardless of rank or authority, in the other person's:

performance assessment or reporting, including training evaluations and audits;

posting, transfer or attached posting;

individual training or education;

duties or scheduling for duties;

documents or records;

grievance process; or

release proceedings.

CF members shall notify their chain of command of any personal relationship that could compromise the objectives of this DAOD.

 

[Thwarten]

So I would need to put in a memo to inform the chain of command? And as long as I'm not in combats, we can hold hands on base?

 

[PMedMoe]

You don't need to inform your CoC, and yes, you can hold hands if you're both in civilian clothing.

 

[JorgSlice]

To play devils advocate:what about all those photos on CombatCamera on return from AFG embracing one another. Is there an RSM out there gouging their own eyes out?  >

 

[armyvern]

To play devils advocate:what about all those photos on CombatCamera on return from AFG embracing one another. Is there an RSM out there gouging their own eyes out?  >

Nope; the RSMs read that "except in greeting or farewell" and the "in a romantic manner" bit of that DAOD. 

 

[JorgSlice]

Some come close to going over the line.

I suppose it depends on one's definition of romantic. Not that I care as you said, it falls under the "in greeting and farewell"