NLer709B said:but all of this even has me starting to wonder.
NLer709B said:Thanks again, and feel free to say whatever you think of this.
NLer709B said:Thanks again, and feel free to say whatever you think of this.
RDJP said:As a schoolteacher, I'll jump in.
No, you can just get posted anywhere and have her walk into a new teaching job. In MANY parts of the country, it's almost impossible right now to get a good job, and if you do, you might end up in a division where their contract doesn't have any seniority in it.
You're right...one of you has to give something up, or face the consequences of being unhappy.
So give up the job, give up the girl, or give up the idea of both of you finding a happy compromise...it's extremely rare.
Nichfour said:Personally my opinion is to ditch the girl you are not married, I was with a women for 3 years and when I applied (around 7 months ago) she said I had to choose her or the job that would have me gone from home a lot. Personally it was an easy choice it was basically trading my future for hers and I said "Nice knowing you" and handed in my application now I am merit listed and could not have been happier with my decision. It sucked for a little while without her but honestly you get over it I would never compromise my future for anyone else's sake when it comes to decisions like this. Obviously if you were married with kids that is different. I don't know you or your relationship but imagine if she hits the road in a year and you are left wishing you would have taken the job.
you have some thinking to do.