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Absolutely, Kat - but till they are old enough to get beyond the end of the driveway, Mom and Dad have to instill the basic ideas of right and wrong, give them the confidence to judge their peer group accurately, and the courage to say no, I won't do that - its wrong.
Laws have to be enforced, penalties stiffened, and punishment has to be meted out in a way to teach kids, if their parents didn't, right from wrong. No more excuses, and no more Mr Nice Guy. Before all of society is sorry, we have to sort these little pinheads and their pinhead pals out.
Let me tell you about my son as a 15-year-old pinhead. He, and 2 friends got caught in some minor vandalism behind their school. No charges, the school wanted to handle it - they were basically good kids, just being really dumb! Mom did, however, have to go get him from the RCMP. Read the riot act, grounded for 3 weeks, as I remember. At school The Kid and the other pin heads had to remove all graffiti off lockers and walls - it took them 2 or more weeks. Now: grounding at our house meant SLAVE. I got the flower gardens weeded, and the lawn mowed. I didn't have to water them for 3 weeks, and he hated garden work! I got the basement cleaned. His Dad got the truck cleaned out, washed and waxed. The back step got leveled. Other than that, for 3 weeks he walked his dog as usual, did his homework, as usual, and agreed upon activities were music lesson, Cadets and school. Nothing else, not even going for ice cream after the garden was weeded. Cut off, Lad!! How did he turn out? Just fine - the kind of adult son a mother can be proud of. He works hard, obeys the law, treats his Significant Other with respect, and he's good to his mother.
Just so you know I had a pinhead, too, but I wasn't going to throw him aside, tolerate the attitude, or leave it to Society to deal with him. I like to think I was a caring parent - we tried to be very careful how we raised him. At 28 he still calls me when something exciting has happened to him. And I was the meanest Mom in town - just ask him!
Hawk
Laws have to be enforced, penalties stiffened, and punishment has to be meted out in a way to teach kids, if their parents didn't, right from wrong. No more excuses, and no more Mr Nice Guy. Before all of society is sorry, we have to sort these little pinheads and their pinhead pals out.
Let me tell you about my son as a 15-year-old pinhead. He, and 2 friends got caught in some minor vandalism behind their school. No charges, the school wanted to handle it - they were basically good kids, just being really dumb! Mom did, however, have to go get him from the RCMP. Read the riot act, grounded for 3 weeks, as I remember. At school The Kid and the other pin heads had to remove all graffiti off lockers and walls - it took them 2 or more weeks. Now: grounding at our house meant SLAVE. I got the flower gardens weeded, and the lawn mowed. I didn't have to water them for 3 weeks, and he hated garden work! I got the basement cleaned. His Dad got the truck cleaned out, washed and waxed. The back step got leveled. Other than that, for 3 weeks he walked his dog as usual, did his homework, as usual, and agreed upon activities were music lesson, Cadets and school. Nothing else, not even going for ice cream after the garden was weeded. Cut off, Lad!! How did he turn out? Just fine - the kind of adult son a mother can be proud of. He works hard, obeys the law, treats his Significant Other with respect, and he's good to his mother.
Just so you know I had a pinhead, too, but I wasn't going to throw him aside, tolerate the attitude, or leave it to Society to deal with him. I like to think I was a caring parent - we tried to be very careful how we raised him. At 28 he still calls me when something exciting has happened to him. And I was the meanest Mom in town - just ask him!
Hawk