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Hey everyone, just wanted to come to this section of the forums to let you all know about where I find myself now, and what you guys suggest are possible ways to approach this job offer.
I was offered a position in the Geo Tech. trade last week, and would be starting BMQ on April 23rd. My girlfriend of 6 years is being supportive, but she is at the same time letting me know that she doesn't want to leave her teaching position here in Newfoundland to move with me because of outstanding student loans and so on. She would be leaving her career, to come with me and look for work so to say.
Also, she doesn't like the sound of moving alot (As I understand members of the military change postings once every 3-5 years or so) because as a teacher, she wouldn't be able to hold a permanent job, and thus would lose the benefit of a good teaching pension once she retires, due to leaving jobs every 3-5 years and not paying into one pension constantly.
I myself don't really mind all this, and I have experience in geomatics and would LOVE to have a career in that area; however I think I should take her situation into consideration.
So what do you guys think? I have been with this girl for 6 years, and we hope to maybe have a house to semi "settle down" in a couple of years; so I am beginning to think it may be best if I decline this offer and look for a career that will give me what I want, while not taking from what she has worked very hard for.
It really sucks that this is what it boils down to, but I know where she's coming from. If I was her and had a student loan to pay and car payment and all the other regular bills, I wouldn't want to chance leaving my (her) current teaching position to follow me with the military and probably end up with a job at a grocery store or something like that to get her bills paid from month to month.
It's a tough decision for me, and I want to know what you guys think about this. When I applied for the military, neither of us had a job worth talking about, but now that she has one related to her university degree, it does kind of change things.
Thanks again, and feel free to say whatever you think of this.
I was offered a position in the Geo Tech. trade last week, and would be starting BMQ on April 23rd. My girlfriend of 6 years is being supportive, but she is at the same time letting me know that she doesn't want to leave her teaching position here in Newfoundland to move with me because of outstanding student loans and so on. She would be leaving her career, to come with me and look for work so to say.
Also, she doesn't like the sound of moving alot (As I understand members of the military change postings once every 3-5 years or so) because as a teacher, she wouldn't be able to hold a permanent job, and thus would lose the benefit of a good teaching pension once she retires, due to leaving jobs every 3-5 years and not paying into one pension constantly.
I myself don't really mind all this, and I have experience in geomatics and would LOVE to have a career in that area; however I think I should take her situation into consideration.
So what do you guys think? I have been with this girl for 6 years, and we hope to maybe have a house to semi "settle down" in a couple of years; so I am beginning to think it may be best if I decline this offer and look for a career that will give me what I want, while not taking from what she has worked very hard for.
It really sucks that this is what it boils down to, but I know where she's coming from. If I was her and had a student loan to pay and car payment and all the other regular bills, I wouldn't want to chance leaving my (her) current teaching position to follow me with the military and probably end up with a job at a grocery store or something like that to get her bills paid from month to month.
It's a tough decision for me, and I want to know what you guys think about this. When I applied for the military, neither of us had a job worth talking about, but now that she has one related to her university degree, it does kind of change things.
Thanks again, and feel free to say whatever you think of this.